Having been in the coaching profession for many years, I can't disagree with much of what you say. However, we don't seem to have the depth in talent at most positions to make competition during practices important. This plays into the "demanding" aspect during the practices.
I see very little leadership from player to player. Our bench decorum during the games is sucky, to say the least. No one player is encouraging another or getting into a team mates face to get them fired up. It is a zombie sideline.
Another thing, I think our coaching staff has put their recruiting eggs into one basket, "flash and dash" skill players. You don't win games if you cannot block and tackle. Every really good team is built from the inside out. Ohio State, Penn State, Michigan, Wisconsin, Alabama, Clemson, etc. Line play wins games.