Well, the bullying problem I had with my son at his private school a few months ago had seemingly died down until yesterday, when he broke down and cried last night - unconsolable - that he didn't want to go back to school and wanted to transfer.
The root of this problem is that the school has 6th and 7th grade in PE together, and it's co-ed. That means all your 7th grade boys that have gone through pub. are big daddies showing off for all the girls. The often involves ridiculing and berating the 6th grade boys. There is a reason that in most schools, grades for PE are segregated, and the boys are separated from the girls. Not so at our school.
Anyways...I called the principal this a.m. and she quickly said "I think your son has the wrong perception here..." I said "Why is it always my son who has the wrong perception? Why is it that his fellow 6th graders are so full of anger after a year's worth of taunting that they are punching walls in frustration and complaining to their parents the same as my child?"
Long story short, I showed up at PE today. As the kids were walking to the gym, I quickly figured out who the "bully" was - Mr. Athlete that is standing at around 5-7 or 8. All he does is show off for everyone. I caught eye contact with him and I think everyone pretty quickly figured out who I was, and why I was there. All of the 7th grade boys (7 or 8 of them) crowded together and were whispering. I knew right then and there that things were going on that shouldn't be, because their behavior was so obviously suspicious.
It was also interesting, that all of the kids had dark shorts and the other shirt the color of our school, except for this boy. He wore all black. Yet the dress code is dark shorts, and a shirt that is our school's color (not black).
I looked out into the foyer area behind the glass and there was a fair amount of whispering among a few adults, too - coaches, athletic director, etc.
About 10 minutes into the PE activity, the middle school principal came in, whispered to the teacher, and then went and retrieved the bully. I heard some muttering between him and the principal and I heard her say "well it starts today." He left and that was it for him.
After class, the teacher told me that I didn't have to come back if I didn't want to, because the bully wouldn't be participating in PE for the rest of this year - he is "in trouble on another issue." Odd.
So I guess my problem is solved, at least for now. Very strange.